The State Of Nothingness

Do you feel the same like I feel things around me sometimes? It's like do you feel nothing at times?  Right!, that feeling of nothingness even makes me so restless that I do not wish to do anything further and feel empty. In this state I experience so many mood swings, mostly depressed mood and that to without any reason; like I'm so upset, that I myself do not know why the hell I'm in this state. And sometimes I'm like the most happiest, satisfied and hyperactive person that you'll ever meet...and then slowly I'm back again in my depressed state. Ufff!!, and do you know why does that happen?....seriously I also don't know just like; you don't know the reason behind your particular state of mind or mood. Oh God! these mood swings are so infuriating!

Further this state is like, we feel so frustrated and peevish maybe because something we wanted to happen didn't happen in the same way we expected or happened in a unpredictable manner. I feel like people around me, no matter whatever they mean to me are so annoying and I do not wish to spend any more time with them...and what all I need is space and distance so that I can at least think something to come out of this state.

There goes on an intense conflict within our mind and thoughts and then those thoughts create disturbances in our mood, further which we experience mood swings and fall into this state of nothingness. You may or may not have experienced this state of mind but when I go through this, I feel like sitting in any one corner of the house where there is no disturbance and I'm alone...just alone.. spending time with myself; further thinking why things are getting confused and what should  I do to make them fall in the right place.

It's good spending time with yourself, but remember staying too long in this state of nothingness is not healthy! It's crucial to go through this state, so that we get a chance to carry out self-introspection and become self-reliant. But the fact of the matter is that inspite of all this, people according to their situations take out many alternatives, or solutions to their problems they may be facing in their lives.
It's like this phase of life is important to stop and realise that-

 "What has been done cannot be changed, but we can definitely change things and our attitude towards life in order to achieve what we aspire to do. There's no point regretting your past doings because things can't be undone, know at present".

What I'm trying to say is that you don't have to worry about this state of nothingness because its way too normal!!...and I think most people experience this in their lives in one stage or the other. Don't stick yourself to any one problem or guilt because that guilt feeling is not gonna help at all...anymore. All that is gonna matter is that your actions..remember-

"Your actions describe you and the way you want your future to be".

So, Finally think deep and then act!
→ Be patient
→ Be more understanding and keep calm
→ Carry out self-introspection
→ Be prepared for every situation, be it depressing, stressful or pressurised conditions; you need to act bravely and wisely. If you spend more time in understanding and changing yourselves, the solutions to the problems will come  to your mind automatically. Just trust and love yourselves!

By: Vrinda Bharara

LET GO OF EVERYTHING

"Sometimes you let go of people without noticing. You stop thinking of them every day. You stop waiting for them to reply to you. You stop allowing them to take up so much space in your life. You move on, you go about your day without worrying about them. You stop expecting them to come back with an apology. You accept that they are no longer a part of your life. You just let them go, simple as that."

This was the quote posted by "Word Porn", an online community which have the world's greatest authors or writers as admins over there. I mean look how nicely this quote conveyed the message of "Self Worth". This extract has such a deep meaning and it kinda touched my soul, so that's why thought of sharing with all of you.

It's just that, inspite of so many things that have happened or are happening, we try to move on in order to overcome those thoughts and pain. The thing that I don't understand is why those thoughts about someone or something that we don't want to remember or think about; bothers us to an extent that we go mad and act like crazy personalities! Inspite of practising the healing procedures why even that "one time or once" we think about the stuff that would make us frustrated, sad, or in depression mode again. I mean, why inspite of already knowing the fact and consequences about consistently thinking of the particular thought or person will hurt us; why we do those things to ourselves?? 

It's on you whether you want to accept the reality or not but it does not changes with the fact that if a person who has gone out of your life, maybe who doesn't care about your existence, or don't want you in their life, or don't value you; are not gonna come back to your life. Why the hell you don't want to accept the known fact that "God has better plans for you" and if he's taking someone or something from you then he has something more worthful that should be given to you at right time and place. 

WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?

• All you have to do is keep patience and stop running behind those reasons that why things happened the way they did or behind people who you want them to be in your life; its simply either their choice or Almighty's. Don't run behind those things that you don't have control over or you can't control, simple as that. Keep things simple, don't get infuriated, confused or complicate things for yourself...pls for god's sake.

• What my opinion regarding this serious problem is trying to make our will power so strong and to become the master of our mind not slaves. Strong will power can help us not to think about any stuff that that would give us pain and or spoil our mood and day.

• We cannot become 100% successful but at least we can try our best and can succeed 50%. But that 50% would further encourage us to fight all the problems bravely and with mental calmness

• Let go of the fear, depression, overthinking and get yourself free out of the pathetic state that doesn't suit anyone. Because further it would hurt and mentally destroy you, and only you not someone else.

I don't want you to read my blogs just for the sole purpose of reading, rather I want you to practically apply those principles in your life to obtain results you actually want to see. No one has the right to hurt, dominate and bully you and "why to give the key of your happiness in someone else's hand" when it only belongs to you!! :) 

 "Spend your time in making yourselves better because there is no replacement for anyone in this world. You know you deserve the world and you've your own worth!!"

So, that's all for today!! If you love this post then do tell me by commenting below and sharing it as much as you can and do not forget to follow me on google + or subscribing me through e-mail so that you don't miss any post by me!Till then stay happy, blessed and think positive!! Do tell me what you want to see in my further posts!
I'll be back soon with another post :) Much love!!

10 Things you should definitely do this Monsoon

Rainy Season or Monsoon whenever it comes, brings a sense of joy and liveliness all around. The weather gets amazingly romantic and pleasant. The fresh and cool winds refreshes our soul and rejuvenates everything around. The petrichor after the raindrops touches the soil is so soothing. In this season the cool winds or what I call is; 'the air of love and happiness' heals the person and his surroundings and make him forget about all his pain and sorrow. 

So! here are the following 10 Things you should definitely do this Monsoon:

1. The Street Food

The love for street foods especially during rains is quite difficult to explain in words. So! don't forget to eat a chai-samosa or the chai-pakora combo!

most deadly combination ever (chai-pakoras-samosa)

2. Avoid having indoor table breakfasts.

Instead have your food outside either on terraces or your balcony. It feels great eating out in such a wow weather!!!

3. Hangout with your friends in some cool or open areas.

Paddle through humble lakes in and around city! It could be family picnic lunch at India Gate as well. enjoy!

Indraprastha Lake, Old Fort, Delhi

4. The most important thing you shouldn't miss is the rain dance party!

Play all back to back rocking Bollywood nos. and dance on them!! Go! and drench yourself out and enjoy the rains. Call out all your buddies!!

5. Go on a long evening or morning walks.

You can ride through the most beautiful roads and trails in your city!! This will keep you fit as well as re-freshened! 

Connaught Place, New Delhi

 

6. Go and shop either online or you can go to the markets.

 Buy things that fascinate you the most! These could be buying from a 'seasonal monsoon sale' or why not to try markets such as Sarojini Nagar! It would be fun! 

Sarojini Nagar neck-piece collection

 

7. Grab your favorite author's work and book a nook in city's cutest bookshop. 

A cup of coffee would be a great companion! CMYK at Greater Kailash - 2 is a treat for those who like their books to have a visual appeal. Other one Spell and Bound could be a nice choice!

Location:C-11/2 SDA Market (opposite IIT main gate), New Delhi

 

 

8. Attend the famous Red Earth's Monsoon Festival.

Red Earth is an independent private arts organization based in New Delhi.The vision behind Red Earth is to celebrate culture in India in all its varied manifestations, in an unlimited way. The monsoon festival redefines art and culture; it is a unique festival to renew the disappearing traditions and cultural practices. This is the place for all the die-hard fans of handmade products, indian craft, music, theater, fashion, and art. This well-celebrated monsoon fest involves visual art, workshops, markets, theater, photography walks.

 9. Listen to your favorite artist's album.

And don't forget to hum the song whole heartedly because the pleasant weather + the amazing music makes a great combination to enjoy the weather. So! what are you waiting? put your headphones on and sing!!

 

 

10. Don't forget to step out with your camera.

Capture the most beautiful spots and shots because the city looks gorgeous after the shower. 

 So, that's all for today!! If you love this post then do tell me by commenting below and sharing it as much as you can and do not forget to follow me on google + or subscribing me through e-mail  so that you don't miss any post by me! Till then stay happy, blessed and think positive!! Do tell me what you want to see in my further posts!
And yeah! HAPPY MONSOON !!!!
I'll be back soon with another post :) Much love!!

Pic courtesy : Google Images

'People change themselves or time changes them'

When we talk about time, one thing that strikes our mind is changes. People often relate time with changes whenever they share their stories and experiences. I agree and I think you should also agree to this thing that whenever we meet someone, we try to show the best version of ourselves. It generally happens when either we're having a conversation with someone who is superior and has more knowledge and experience than us in a context to give them respect (so that we don't look that dumb). Or it may happen in those situations where we're talking to someone for the first time or talking to a person whom we may have certain liking or interest. 

Further, what happens is we do those things or behave in a manner that we may or may not be in reality. It's not like every time a person is showing off his good side or good traits, but sometimes a person could be the same as he is in reality! Come on! We cannot always look to the negative side of life; we've to be positive in many aspects of it. What all we need to remember is that the changes we often observe in each other can be brought out in two ways; either people bring changes in them wishfully or with passing time people change.

Time changes a person; you know when he/she goes through some extreme circumstances or hardships and struggles of life. Take an example of a person who has just come out from a long term, committed relationship or a person who is suffering from grief of death of his near and dear one. The hard consequences of separation from their loved ones will automatically transform an individual from head to tail. Also, because of the psychological mental torture and continuous thoughts about the bad phase of your life makes the person either aggressive and frustrating individual or he/she becomes so quiet and introvert that they do not wish to speak about anything that happened, to anyone. During this phase of life people avoid sharing their bad experiences because they have already suffered and gone through so much pain, depression and sorrow that further they do not want to get through it over and over again. In this context changes occurring in person's life is because of time and situations automatically and not because of their wish.

 It is easier to say to a person that you've changed a lot but if you look behind, you may see a bunch of reasons that why so and so happened and what is the reason for this transformation. So, in this complex and different perspective based concept called 'changes & times' all you can do is, try to understand them well with patience and not being judgemental towards anyone's behaviour or character.

Also, we cannot say ‘why people are the way they are’, because maybe they need more love and affection, more attention, care and support of few right people to overcome obstacles in their life. There are many people who are involved in everyone's good times but there are just few people who support people in their bad times and their sufferings. If you can't help people then don't infuriate them either. 

 So, that's all for today!!If you love this post then do tell me by commenting below and sharing it as much as you can and do not forget to follow me on google + or by e-mail and subscribe so that you don't miss any post by me! Till then stay happy, blessed and think positive!! Try to understand people and keep patience. I'll be back soon with another post:) Much love!!

Simple tips to get yourself out from any sort of depression that you may be facing in your life.

Hey! There!!! I know, I've not posted for days but since I've got the time, I would like to continue sharing my thoughts with all of you. So, this is gonna be a long one. In my first blog I wrote about how time heals everything and I was gonna tell you about some changes or you can call it few tips to keep yourself optimistic and calm.

 These few little steps can make big changes in your life but remember only and only if you want to make those changes willingly in your life without arguing. So, here are some tips that will help you in your healing process against depression-

➤You need to look yourself at the mirror at least thrice in a day and say 'I Love You' to yourself whenever you look in the mirror. I know this sounds weird, but the first step is that you need to start loving yourself so that you recognise your worth. It's a sort of like boosting your self-esteem!!! So, cheer up!!

➤ Okay!, the next one is, if you have frequent mood swings or just got through some breakups or relationship instabilities, listen to some of your favourite music but remember avoid listening to slow and sad songs if possible because you need to change your mood?, Right? Instead try turning on some rock music and dance to those tunes at least half an hour daily or simply turn on the radio and just start!!!

➤ Go yourself out alone, either in parks or somewhere near about and eat your favourite food. The best part is that you don't have to share it with anyone :) imagine just you and a big slice of pizza!! What’s best than this? Enjoy!!

➤ Stop thinking all those things or stuff that can ruin your inner peace and your healing process. For example stop thinking about what you could have done in those situations or what if you could have said this or that...uhhh enough of this shit!! It's eating your brain bro!! just stop this shit!

➤ At night before going to bed, talk to yourself for about 10 min daily! Carry out self - introspection about things you've done or want to do. Think of ways to achieve your aim or purpose of your life :) Follow your dream people!!

➤ Indulge yourself in some household work if you like to do so! Like you can clean up your room or house, help your mum in cooking and soon. Okay, the sole purpose of doing or indulging in these activities is to keep your mind busy with these stuff, so that our mind is distracted in various things and so we do not get the time to think about unnecessary thoughts which we, I mean obviously you don't want it to happen.

➤ Try spending more time with those who value you more than anyone else, or with those who want you to always be a part of their lives and who really consider you as an essential part of their lives. The tough job is to find out who really cares and who doesn't give a damn about you. But trust me you'll get those types of people soon at the right time and place! Just keep patience, that's important :) And.... yeahhh remember that you value them too and don't take them for granted!

➤ And last but not the least.... give yosurself enough time to analyse what you should be doing now after you've faced tough circumstances and how to move on... Take out time for yourself, eat healthy food and take good care of yourselves because "Healing starts with you" and you need to be mentally strong to overcome any situation in your life. So, to be mentally fit, you need to change the way to lead a good life filled with happiness. 

So, that's all for today!! I know its tooo....muchhh but this post was really important :) If you love this post then do tell me by commenting below and sharing it as much as you can and share it with those who really need to read this :) Till then stay happy, blessed and think positive!! I'll be back soon with another post:) Much love!!

Few tips to create positivity and to calm yourself

*HOW TO INCREASE POSITIVE ENERGY IN   YOUR HOUSE*

*1.* Open all windows in the house and allow fresh air and sunshine to enter the house. Free flow of air and sun rays are negative energy remover

*2.* Dispose of all the old unwanted things lying in the house. Clutter is a negativity magnet. It attracts and accumulates negative energy in the house.

*3.* Walking barefoot in the house helps all your negative energy to be absorbed by the earth.
Grounding is important to keep the energy balance in our body.

*4.* In olden days, foot- wears were kept out of the house. People used to enter the house only after washing their feet with water. This action ensures that all the negativity remains outside or are grounded by earth and does not enter the house. Now it has become difficult to keep the footwear outside. So preferably remove them near the entrance door.

*5.* Go out in the open air. Take walks in the garden or open ground. Being amongst nature re-energizes or charges you fully.

*6.* Sweeping the floor also ensures that the negative energies are shaken and moved out with the dirt.

*7.* Rock salt is another negativity remover. Wash or mop your floor with a fistful rock salt in a bucket of water. This ensures that every nook and corner of the house is rid of negative energy.

*8.* Potted plants or trees around your house or society also ensures more positive energy in the house and area.

*9.* Bathing or Soaking your legs and hands in rock salt water once in a while removes the negativity attached to your body and cleanse your aura.

*11.* Repetition of Prayers,  increases the positive vibrations in the house. 100%

*12.* Keep your thoughts, action and speech Positive. Negative thoughts will bring in negative vibes. So avoid all negative thoughts, speech and actions.

*13.* Keep your house well lit and illuminated. Light removes negativity.

*14.* Keep faith in God and in yourself. You are the Creator of your own destiny by the Choices you make.

*STAY HAPPY STAY BLESSED*

These few small steps can really help you a lot in your life ! If you feel so then pls do tell me by commenting and sharing my blog 😊😊 Will see you in my next blog, till then stay tuned!!

Time heals everything

People don't forget about what hurt them, nor they forget about the pain caused to them. It's just that with time people deal to live around that pain and learn how to confront the situation or deal with it. Yeah!.... I completely agree that 'Time heals everything', or 'with time things get better' but all the so called "internal healing procedures" would only work when you yourself i.e. willingly want to get healed. Obviously, nothing in this world could happen on it's own, we ourselves have to take some effort to let it happen especially when it is for our well being and mental health. Come on! guys can't​ we be a bit self-centered when it is about us? I know the effort and the tolerance required to go through that pain is a way too stressing and depressing. You know what really happens in some extreme circumstances??, the depressing situations or any sort of pain can literally transform a person into someone that is, right now cannot be explained in mere words. The problems do not have any particular defined sphere, it can arise at anytime, mostly when you are least expecting those situations! You may categorise your problem like going through a family crisis, instable relationships and so on. But trust me guys! you're just gonna be fine!! The thing is that you need to follow just some simple tips to get yourself out from any problem or depression that you may be facing in your life. I'll be writing about those tips in my next blog, till then stay tuned! And tell me about how did you like my blog by commenting and sharing my blog.