Do Expectations Always Hurt?

Of course it does and sometimes it does not!
It solely depends upon the situation one goes through. Expectations from the right person never hurts but if you expect anything from a wrong person, then you my friend; are doing one of the biggest mistakes of your life. You all must have heard the famous Hindi proverb that says-

"उम्मीद पर दुनिया कायम हैं |" 

If not, it means that 'hope is what keeps people alive'. We all are dependent on each other on the basis of some hope/expectations that we hold for each other. If there's nothing to expect or to predict that what will happen in future, or what is going to happen in the very next moment, then it's really difficult for all of us to survive in this world. It is nearly impossible to have no expectations from anyone regarding anything. It's just that you can always expect a little less from people i.e. expecting not beyond the limits. Obviously if you are close to someone then there's always a possibility that you expect a little more than you expect from any other person. This happens because we love, care, give attention and are attached to our closed ones more than other people in our life.

Consider an example where its your birthday, and you are expecting something really precious or special present from from your parents. Suppose you get the thing which you were wishing and now your expectations get fulfilled. Now, in this case you cannot expect that same gift or present from any other person or relative because; obviously you love your parents more than anyone else and hence you expect a little more than you expect from other people. Further if you would have been expecting the same present from any other person then you would've got hurt because in this case there's a chance that your expectations may not get fulfilled. This is the situation where you must have experienced pain, anger or bad mood, simply because of the unfulfilled desires. AND why not to experience this shit when all you're expecting from a wrong person!!

You are expecting certain things, emotions and sense of understanding from that 'wrong person' who may not even be attached, love you, and care for you in the same way you do for them. And in this world full of complexities, who knows what the other person is thinking about us? You can always expect something or the other from your parents or people who are genuinely close to you, like your best friend, grandparents and so on. But what all you need to remember is-

"No matter whatever do you expect from the other person, but it is necessary to be aware that he/she is the right person from whom you're expecting."

Otherwise the pain or the unfulfilled expectations always hurt us and give us sorrow and nothing else.
Expectations do hurt but what hurts the most is, that our unshaken trust from that wrong person breaks and further we do not wish to trust anyone and expect anything from anyone, so that we do not have to go through that state of unhappiness again.

So, what do I suggest is-

• Try being a self sufficient personality, so that you have everything and you are not bound to expect that the other person will give you something. Start from simple steps like maintaining your own stationery.
• Be more helping because helping people with the mindset to get anything in return will not give you the realisation of contentment and peace which you may feel by helping people.
• Be happy and satisfied in what you have because the other person may not even have, what you are having. Even if you want to own certain luxuries or things in your life; then do hardwork and earn it yourself rather than hoping to get it from someone else.

Lastly,

"Rather than maintaining a 'Give and Take' relationship"

"Give, help, love & care for each other with no hope to get anything in return"

A Post by: Vrinda Bharara